January 31, 2018
If you do not deal with snow or cold weather very often, seeing someone having their wedding in Minnesota in January may be a big shock to you! Leading up to the big day temperatures starting going up into the 40s and I was so worried about the snow melting. Thankfully with how much we had it didn’t melt!
Right after Brad proposed Kayla asked me about wedding pricing and if I would be willing to photograph their wedding. I have never photographed something so big for a family member (Kayla is my cousin) and I have heard other photographs say that they don’t like to shoot events like weddings due to wanting to enjoy the day. Even though I was the only photographer there, I still got to enjoy the wedding with family and friends!
The road that has brought Kayla and Brad here today technically started back in High School. Though they wouldn’t know it then. And even though it would take a few years (and maybe some sister/roommate intervening), there was finally a first date. From there a friendship formed and then a relationship that continued to grow and which eventually got them to Hawks Ridge for the proposal and now here to this moment today. Through the past five years, they have come to mean more to each other than they possibly could have expected back then in the hallways at school.
During the ceremony, the officiant had read off some questions that she had asked Brad and Kayla separately:
1. What was the first thing you remember about your first date with one another?
KAYLA: The first thing that drew me to Brad was his smile, his ability to have fun in all situations and his kind demeanor towards others.
BRAD: Our first date just seemed so relaxed and fun. We played darts and I let her win.
2. How does the other one make you feel?
KAYLA: He makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the world.
3. What is their biggest quirk?
BRAD: That she’s pretty much always talking to her sister.
(Which she DID mention in one of her other answers when she said that she called her sister after your first date and just miiiiight have told her “I think he is the man of my dreams”.)
KAYLA: With a slightly less romantic reply for this one, Kayla said YOUR biggest quirk is your sense of style. Or lack there of. It is really comical at times what he thinks is acceptable to wear in public.
4. What makes the other person so special to you?
KAYLA: Brad is so special to me because he makes me a better person. He makes me feel special even on the most ordinary days.
BRAD:I love her so much. I would do anything for her.
One of my favorite parts of the ceremony was the unity ceremony. Instead of doing the traditional candle or sand, they did a unity box. Kayla and Brad have written love letters to each other. In these letters they have detailed why they fell in love and what they truly admire about the other person. The letter will be placed in this box along with a good bottle of wine. They will then lock the box closed. The idea is that if ever they find their marriage has hit a rough spot, they will bring out the box, they will open it, share the wine, and read the letters reminding them of the love that brought them together and the promises they made to each other here today. It is their hope and belief that they will not need the box except in celebration of an anniversary. This may not seem like the most romantic thing to do on a wedding day–to think about the days when things will be hard–but it’s important to Kayla and Brad that their ceremony and promises to each other be realistic.
During the reception, I don’t think that there was a dry eye during the toasts from Ashley (Kayla’s twin sister), Jake (Brad’s best friend), and Mike and Bob (the bride and grooms fathers’). Little did I know until Ashley’s toast was that the reason Kayla and Brad got together was because of her and Jake. When Kayla and Brad got together, they would always see each other because at the time Ashley and Jake were living in Brads basement. You could say that this wedding was all because of Jake and Ashley!
To end this off, I want to share a quote that Mike, Kayla’s dad, shared during his speech:
“Happy marriages begin when we marry the one we love and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.” – Tom Mullen
Hair: Hair by Stacie Verdick
Planner: Ashley Mudek | Instagram
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